If you spray scent and put on a nice outfit for a first date, chances are you wouldn’t want to pull red meat with your fingers at the table. We’re not telling you to opt for the salad and wheatgrass juice (because you’ll seem a bit try-hard) but sometimes, it’s good to be cautious on your first date. Or at least until you suss your date out.

Q: This might sound like a stupid reason to write in but I hate when my girlfriend hogs the bed at night. As a man, I need my space and she seems to think I’m joking when I tell her about it. She goes all ‘Aww, you’re so cute’. There’s nothing cute about it! I just want my space. Do you understand my plight, Sarah?

Q: I’ve been friends with this male friend of mine for quite a long time and he recently broke up with his long-term girlfriend. Because he felt quite lonely, he started flirting with me and we hooked up. I had the most amazing time and I’m afraid this might slowly make me fall for him. Should I continue sleeping with him because deep down, I don’t want to stop.

Q: My girlfriend and I have been living together for five years, and we’ve been together for seven. We’re in a bit of a rough patch – or at least I was – and I kind of told her I was unhappy in our relationship and that I might be looking for someone else. She left a few days ago, and now my mind is going crazy because I guess I didn’t want her to go.

Q: I haven’t had sex in almost two years and it’s driving me crazy. I think my virginity actually came back. Problem is I’m not the kind to just jump into bed with anyone; I actually have to be in a relationship with someone I can trust enough to want to sleep with them. What can I do to take my mind off it?

Q: I’ve been dating this really cute guy but he seems to have a problem with sharing his thoughts and feelings. He talks about things we like (music, video games, etc.) but when I ask him about sharing personal stuff, he doesn’t say much. He seems to think it’s ‘macho’ or ‘manly’ to not express his emotions. How do I break through this man of steel?